What I’m Drinking
Every morning I make myself and my Mistress, Queen Nazz, coffee. I’m in charge of the coffee: choosing the beans, grinding them (if need be), operating the drip coffee machine, mixing Nazz’s coffee with milk, and bringing it to her on one knee.
Northern Thailand is a coffee lover’s paradise. The farmers, including members of the hill tribes, grow a lot of coffee in the mountains up north. When Nazz and I go on a trip to the countryside, we are almost guaranteed to come home with some bags of local coffee.
There are some coffee shops I have come to love for their design and their beans. One of my favorites is The Baristro. If When you visit Chiang Mai, make sure to go to one of their nine locations. Their flagship cafe is located right alongside the Ping River. Each location has a distinct style, including one by Doi Suthep with ornate wood working in its ceiling and columns that evokes (its name) Asian Style.
Most of all, I love their variety of beans, which are imbued with a variety of flavor notes. Each flavor I have tried hits as advertised. My favorites, and the ones Nazz and I are drinking on September mornings, are the straw-berries blend and the drunken blend (which is imbued with a subtle rum and vanilla flavor).
What I’m Listening To
“Señorita Revolución” (2023) by Bruses, a 26-year-old indie singer from Tijuana, Mexico, is a thumping banger. Listen to these lyrics:
Cuando ella camina no te atrevas a retarla
Por que el piso tiembla, tumba
Because the floor shakes, grave
Muros, las ventanas
Walls, windows
Todo el mundo en guerra
Everybody at war
Y las espadas en la espalda
And the swords in the back
Cuidado ella tiene to' el poder bajo la falda
Be careful because she has all the power under the skirt
What I’m Reading (Erotica)
M.L. Paige’s recent novella Submitting to the Spoiled Asian Brat brought the supremely confident and bossy brat princess character Erika to life. Bratty party girls are a fun archetype. For some sub males, including myself, it is hot knowing that a hot girl, a cool girl, a charismatic girl can use you for something. It gets something going in your body and soul to be toyed with by her, to try to keep up with what she demands…
M.L. Paige brings the scenes to life, makes them seem believable, makes the reader feel like they are there.
Her works usually escalate in each scene, and a lot of them end with something on the more extreme end (often cum-eating or pegging). This one also has a scene of something hot and firey coming from a cigarette.
What I’m Thinking: BDSM is Like a Buffet, We Are Goldilocks
Often, I find myself loving the first half of M.L. Paige’s books but being a little bit turned off by the ending if it involves certain acts that go outside my comfort zone. This isn’t meant as a criticism of Paige. It’s just that we all have our different tastes.
Claudia Varria, the author of The Art of Sensual Female Dominance, wrote that BDSM, kink, and fetish play is like a buffet. Some people will enjoy one particular fetish or another. Some might like almost all of the foods at the buffet, but then, cilantro might make them gag.
For subs who take a perverse pleasure in being made to do degrading things, the differences between what you like, tolerate, hate, or hate but love to be made to do, etc, can be complicated. The slave who likes to be burned with a candle or whipped until they bleed might cringe at any thought of CBT.
Sometimes, it depends on the situation. I don’t drink Busch Lite ordinarily because it’s not a particularly tasty beer. But if I’m on a fishing raft with my brother in a lazy river in Montana, Busch Lite is just the right beer for that time and place. (And, eating my own cum off the floor isn’t particularly tasty, either, but if I’m having a session in Bangkok with two dominatrixes who I just met who put me on a leash, put a tail in my ass, and just demanded me to cum while worshipping their feet, well, it was a pretty fun experience ll things considered.)
You shouldn’t feel any shame if your kinks are not “extreme” enough. Kink is a way for us to feel pleasure or actualize our dreams and make full our selves. We are all Goldilocks trying out the porridges, and saying, “No, this one is too bland. This one is too spicy…” Trying to find the one that is just right is the difficult challenge!
My New Release
PUNISHED by the Bangkok Bar Girls is available as an audiobook on Audible now. The bar girls in this novella are also mostly on the bratty side. Charlie is kind of “forced” to do what he really wants to do anyway. Think how sweaty the bar girls’ feet must be after they’ve been working all night, attending to customers while wearing sexy heels… And how you would secretly love to help them out of their shoes and breathe in their scent…
Read PUNISHED by the Bangkok Bar Girls for $3.49 or free for KU on Kindle.
Listen to PUNISHED by the Bangkok Bar Girls on Audible.
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