Gentle Femdom Diaries: New Book Includes Interview with Ari and Mistress Nazz
M Kay Noir interviews seven dommes and one of their sub boys.
M Kay Noir is a dominant woman and the author of multiple erotic novels and novellas, including Beg Me Please, Own Me Please, and House of Subs. Today, she is releasing a book that features interviews with my Mistress, Queen Nazz, and myself.
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Her book Gentle Femdom Diaries: Interviews with Real Kinksters shares real life examples of femdom relationships. It is intended to spread awareness of what a real femdom dynamic looks like. As she says, Mistresses came have all kinds of personalities and styles. They aren’t just cold-hearted sadists (although warm-hearted sadists who act cold are fun, too!) depicted in porn.
I connected with M Kay on Instagram, and I read about her interview project. I thought it sounded interesting, so, after talking with Nazz, I volunteered us for the project. She was so nice and fun to talk with! She published our interview on her website. Now it is coming out in book form, along with interviews with six other dommes. (I am the only sub male whose quotes are included in the book.)
It includes advice for dommes and subs on how to find the kind of relationship you are looking for and how to approach play. The advice emphasizes mental health and the need for aftercare and properly establishing limits.
If you want to find out how Queen Nazz and I met, how Nazz got into kink, and the stories of six other dominant women and their relationships, you’ll find it in Gentle Femdom Diaries. From my perspective, the advice is good for people getting started in BDSM. Perhaps I could have used more advice earlier on. I had not defined my limits well, and I had some roller coaster experiences of great highs and fast drops. I had to learn on my own (and, well, it was fun), and I offered some insights from my experiences for the book.