eyemblacksheep: Interview with a Male AV Filming Slave and Producer
"When you looked at pictures there'd always be one guy or another doing the kinda fawning, 'lucky slave' type stuff. I didn't do that. I, instead, thought, 'How do I make it me?'"
I have conducted interviews with erotica writers and fellow Substackers here. This is something new and exciting. It’s my first interview with a producers of erotic videos, otherwise known as pornography.
In addition to being an actor--filming slave--in many films, eyemblacksheep is the operator of the Domestic Femdom studio on Clips4Sale and a writer who documents his experiences with kink at eyemblacksheep.com. Domestic Femdom’s latest clips include one of a bratty girl bullying Santa and one of himself trying to last under Goddess Luna Law’s perfect ass. You might say he’s a “lucky slave,” but that’s a fallacy that dismisses the agency of the sub and Domme involved.
"Nothing on screen is over-scripted; after the camera hits it's all ab libbed from there."
Based in Britain, he is a switch who has been involved in running the Sunderland Munch and DJing at fetish events like Liber8.
I find his blog to be fascinating, as he delves into a variety of topics about being filmed for femdom AVs, finding a Mistress, and a wide range of topics related to kink and BDSM. For example, how does one become a slave in an AV? Answer: Most are known to the Mistress or producer--or are the producer themselves--and often must pay tribute.
He has busted myths about male submissives, offered tips for men on how to get more play and relationships, written about his experiences at fetish clubs, and diaries about filming. Make sure to visit eyemblacksheep.com and see what his commentary and fiction.
Now jump in for my interview with eyemblacksheep.
You became a film slave in 2016. Had you thought about being filmed before that? Was it something you had wanted to do or something that just came about?
There's a story I tell which has a lot of truth in it. That of course I've been active in the kink lifestyle long before dipping into any filming, and had been on sites like Fetlife.
When you looked at pictures there'd always be one guy or another doing the kinda fawning, "I wish that was me" or "lucky slave" type stuff. I didn't do that. I, instead, thought, "How do I make it me?”
I hadn't done extensive research, but I'd done some research. At the time there were often people advertising for film subs and so the actual first shoot I did was just to see if I could play with a camera rolling. Then, from there I got into things and learnt a lot as I went. But, being accepted onto many early shoots was due to being active in the kink community and having experienced a lot of the play types.
As a film slave with your own studio, Domestic Femdom, do you ever write scenarios specifically to engage your fetishes? How much of the scenario comes from you, and how much comes from the Mistress?
A short answer would be yes, but let me digress.
If we rewind in time a little bit. If I was a film sub applying to a casting, there might be specific types of content they want to capture (either because it sells for them, or something they want to showcase) but usually the film sub would be asked to provide their interests and limits.
Obviously if a Mistress wants to do hard impact, and a sub wants to do worship then they're not going to get accepted. So, I think because of this there's some Mistress where we've discussed working together and it's not happened because what we want is too different.
So in all cases there's somewhat a level of collaboration, whether it is "this is a fetish we both want content for," or something we're both happy to do which ties in with one or the other of what we want to make.
There are some Dommes who will come with a complete idea and say, "This is what we're doing," though that only works because we know each other anyway and it's content they want they know I'm good with. I can and have brought scene ideas. I guess for example if I turn up to a shoot totally empty headed then I am putting all the pressure for activities and scenarios onto the Mistress.
Sometimes something is a bit more collaborative in the sense maybe a Mistress is "I want to do this, but not quite sure what is missing from the idea" and I might pipe in with suggestions.
Nothing is ever over-scripted, so after the camera hits it's pretty much all ab libbed from there.
Promo scene from Brat Girl Bullies Santa feat. Luna Law and eyemblacksheep by Domestic Femdom
You wrote articles in 2017 and 2020 titled "So You Want to be a Film Slave." How has the adult film industry changed since then, and what does 2025 hold?
I like that blog in the sense it holds up. Remember the audience for that blog is for people whose interest lies in being used as a sub in fetish filming.
I feel in recent years that I've 'seen' less castings which are available to new subs (and certainly ones without tribute are non-existent) with many Dommes preferring to use those who are known.
And in answer to a "how do I become known?" well, via sessioning or other service.
There also has been somewhat of a rise in film subs who've started their own production studios--myself included--see Domestic Femdom. However that is a LOT of extra cost and work. And most of the blog applies anyway.
Back in 2014, the UK passed the Audio Visual Media Services regulations (AVMS), which reportedly banned facesitting and other kinky acts from appearing in films. What kind of impact did that law have, and has the industry and community found a way around it in the decade since?
The act has been amended a few times since then, and while there were periods people were really worried about what they could film - generally it's a non-issue. At the minute there's generally more concerns about the landscape with many countries trying to implement laws restricting access to adult content by one means or another, we may have a better idea by the end of the year what that looks like.
Which countries are most at risk for losing access to pornography?
The UK has the Online Safety Bill, which has passed into law, but it is yet to be disclosed how it will be enforced or regulated. It’s expected to have details later in the year on what websites should be doing to control access.
The US is another; a number of states already have laws requiring age verification for access to adult sites and more are expected to follow subject to legal challenges.
The EU has the Digital Services Act. Canada, Australia and others also have other acts at different stages.
How old were you when you became aware that you were attracted to dominant women, and how did your journey into femdom go? Did you encounter any difficulties dealing with shame or finding a compatible partner when you were younger?
It's a difficult one in the sense that when I was young there was a lot kink-wise I might have been aware existed, but not really aware what were. Consider I didn't have internet access at all until I was 17, and didn't have it at home until much later. Equally even some of the info on the internet then was a little more limited.
It's hard to pinpoint an exact moment because I knew for example some ideas or scenarios that turned me on, but not a lot that went with it.
When I was in my 20s I was on sites like Alt, Masterslave, etc, and I did surprisingly get a lot of responses back, but they didn't really go anywhere. A lot of these ideas were shelved a little when I met my first wife.
Returning to the idea of scene, community and wider ideas with my current wife did reenact a lot of feelings and interests. And, shame, yeah... I think that is common in kink in general, be it that things turn us on which we feel "aren't normal,” or we like ideas or structures which aren't conventional.
Add in, of course, if you look online there are a lot of guys who do have some bad habits, and some perhaps can learn and grow, but seem feel adamant. In itself this did for example make me ashamed of a foot fetish I had, given how creepy a lot of guys can be. A good conversation with a Mistress-friend did help set me right, and this is important for others; you can avoid being associated with those who have creepy behavior by identifying that behavior is bad and, well, not doing it.
What are the biggest mistakes guys make when they try to get into femdom or find a compatible partner?
This one is easy.
The main one is they put the fetish first. So it always makes women/Dommes feel the guy is more interested in the fantasy, or having their fetish fulfilled, than they are in them.
The second is they expect someone who is "the finished product" when they themselves haven't mastered the basics. So they'll complain women are "not real Dommes" but they themselves have done little to demonstrate WHY they're worth interacting with.
A third is they make women feel like they will be work, rather than rewarding. "Show me the way,” "train me,” "tell me what to do,” "I'll do anything you say,” so on -- these are all things which add to someone's workload.
And a final is they are unrealistic with expectations, or want to walk straight into a 24/7, or owned relationship (or, move quickly) when the reality of what relationships look like differ from their fantasies.
You have written about how the ratio between subs and Dommes is closer than most people think. Why is it that man submissive men act talk and act like it is impossible to find a dominant woman or a woman who will engage in domination?
The truth is that finding a partner, in general, can be difficult. It's even more difficult when you add specifications (like "must be into kink") and roles ("must be a Domme") and this is before we get into any issues with attitude.
Some men understand this, and it doesn't mean it can't be frustrating at times for them. Others do not understand this, or want to add scenarios in their head. For example, the reason they cannot find someone is not because it's difficult, or not because of their own shortfalls, but because of some factor beyond their control (i.e. 'the ratio'). So for some the concept of this ratio is a comfort blanket, there is nothing wrong with them it's the numbers stacked against them.
But for some it can feel like a big monster, that they feel defeated like they'll never have a chance because of the odds. And so for both sets I'd say... for those using it as a comfort blanket, swap it out for one that is simply "finding someone can be hard" rather than looking into something which isn't true. For those who feel they simply have no chance, accepting it is difficult is a first step.
But for everyone there is stuff we can do which makes us more desirable, and some of this is in looking for common interests outside of kink and using those as a basis for a relationship. In terms of others it's looking at the negative behaviors Dommes, or those who'd be willing to engage in Dominant behavior, find off-putting and working on those. Mostly asking the question of "how does this person helping me with my interests benefit them?" Pro Dommes exist because the benefit is often being paid. But for others, well, I think most women would be happier to engage in kink play with a lover or friend, rather than a random stranger.